The way we face challenges and difficult situations in life shapes our character and therefore our final destiny. For example in a new situation where there may be risk, if we focus on our fear of failure, we will certainly feel insecure and lacking in resources and most likely our behavior will be affected. Numerous studies, on the other hand, show that a positive mental attitude, and not so much intelligence, is the fundamental element for personal success. Let’s see how to use it
Afraid to fail? Usually the person who never makes mistakes always takes orders from the person who commits them. Being emotionally fit means feeling confident that even in the most difficult situations we will be able to prevail on the emotional side. What does this mean? It means that it is the way we interpret situations and evaluate what happens around us that shapes our emotions, our actions and therefore, the type of person we become.
We can say that a winning mental state is fundamentally based on one ability: the ability to always find empowering meaning in any situation. The question then that we will ask ourselves in front of every event of our life, above all unpleasant, will be: “How can I use it?”. The difference between success and failure tends to be the ability to turn difficult situations into empowering resources.
Fear is one of the basic sensations of the human being, but the fear of failure and the insecurity linked to it should not stop the movement of our resources. This is also because often the path that leads to self-realization is studded with failures, but it is precisely the difficult experiences, the so-called “formative” experiences, which allow us to obtain the most important changes and developments. The winners in life have one thing in common, and it is not the lack of obstacles or difficulties: they know how to use each situation to grow, improve and take themselves to a new level.
The fear of failure and the fear of risk
Fear of failure usually leads people to avoid risks, and too often these people do not even want to discover the boundaries of their abilities, but only want to do the bare minimum to obtain a sufficient level of well-being and then protect it. On the other hand, the psychologist Abraham Maslow had already counted “security” among the basic needs of man, and it is a natural instinct to want to protect and preserve what we have. But be careful, this “feeling at ease” can sometimes be deceptive: it can limit our decisions and consequently our actions.
To reach any goal there is always some risk to take and, only by learning to manage the fear of failure and the fear of risk, will we be more likely to get what we want. Every fear is an opportunity to grow.
Often we do not fear what we think scares us, but we fear what we think. In chess it is said that the fear of attack is stronger than the attack itself. Our imagination is very capable of amplifying our fear of failure.
Fear is sometimes useful: it warns us of dangers, provides the red signal that warns us to stop; it is not functional when it completely blocks our progress towards a goal. If you are dominated by the fear of failing, you are unlikely to act freely and effectively: it is difficult to lose pounds if you continue to think about how overweight you are, it is difficult for a basketball player to hit the target if he continues to focus on not making mistakes.