Perpetually dissatisfied, many people are always looking for something else, for novelty and for new goals, often unclear. They are unable to enjoy the moment and be satisfied with what they have done.
Promotion to an exam, graduation, marriage, business success and a love story full of emotions … are not enough to satisfy the “hunger” of many people, always looking for something else, often without really knowing what their destination is. constantly dissatisfied with life, successes and goals achieved. Each finish line is the beginning for another race, without enjoying the moment, rejoicing and observing the road traveled with satisfaction. Always looking to the future, they travel on a new journey that will again bring other dissatisfaction and so on to infinity. Why does this happen?
Dissatisfaction: A Monster Called Society
In today’s society, often basic needs such as the physiological ones for safety and love (underlying Maslow, 1962) are taken for granted and the life motive becomes society’s success, dream fulfillment and recognition. , with the fear of falling into anonymity.The idea that you can have it all and achieve anything raises expectations and the illusion of easy access to wealth, power, your dreams and the recognition of others. , an extremely flexible and dynamic company, where today’s certainties are not those of yesterday or even tomorrow, where everything ends in a short time to make room for new and change. Insecurity is the order of the day, the needs for security and belonging vanish and fear and constant dissatisfaction arise. Furthermore, the infinite possibilities and the need to choose carry with them the price of renunciation, leaving a “bad taste in the mouth” that not even the satisfactions of the chosen path can sweeten. The achieved goal eludes quickly because one is called to constantly move, change and modify one’s projects, with little ability to adapt and manage the novelty and the eventual failure as a springboard for improvement.
Dissatisfaction: characteristics of the self
Your lifestyle and the way you face everyday life and challenges are the basis of dissatisfaction.The constant tendency to perfectionism that pushes you to do more and better, seeking excellence without accepting failures, generates perennially dissatisfied people therefore, even the best work will never be enough for one’s expectations, which are often unrealistic. Failures are not tolerated and cause guilt, frustration and devaluation, without the ability to see what has been done and the effort put in place. Defeats are not accepted and unexpected events are attributed to oneself and one’s lack of ability to keep everything under control, but the matter becomes complicated because chronic dissatisfied people do not see the result as the result of their effort, they want more and more without recognizing the efforts made. and rejoice at what has been achieved. Everything flows quickly and the desire is never appeased.
Dissatisfaction: what I am is not what I want
The strongest basis of dissatisfaction lies in the lack of self-awareness and acceptance. Very often it is difficult to accept one’s limits and one is not fully aware of one’s possibilities and abilities. We are satisfied for fear of making mistakes and failing without daring and really getting involved, remaining dissatisfied with unexciting results.Other times, expectations are high and hardly achievable with the means and tools available, often falling back into failures The gap between the ideal self, what you want to be and aspire to, and the real self, what you really are, is very wide and the search for something greater than yourself and often poorly defined generates dissatisfaction. The non-acceptance of oneself does not allow us to know what makes us happy and leads to travel of little value, whose goals leave a sense of emptiness and lack. Chronic dissatisfied people are unable to realize what they have, are and have often achieved by giving them little weight and therefore drawing little enthusiasm, satisfaction and well-being from it and continually seeking new realization, probably without ever reaching it. “Whoever is not satisfied with what he has, would not be satisfied even if he had what he wants”. Socrates