At a certain point in the life of each individual, between childhood and adulthood, there is a period characterized by continuous changes, both in terms of the physical aspect of a person and the psychological one. This period is called adolescence.
The biggest problem of this period is: the confrontation with the parents, who in this period become more and more oppressive.
Some children interrupt the dialogue with their parents, because when they try to express their ideas and opinions, they always have something to counter. Parents have to say about everything: about fashion and how to dress, about wearing too much makeup or coming home later than usual, they also have a tendency to control the friendships they hang out with.
In reality, it is difficult for a boy to live his adolescence well without exchanging any opinions with the adults who have been his point of reference so far. Until a few years ago parents seemed perfect, always ready to solve the situation and get out of trouble, then overnight this alchemy breaks, and they can’t understand that their children are growing up.
The first sensation that children have towards their parents, especially during adolescence, is quite similar to an instinctive refusal: “we are grown up, we want to do it alone”, or at least convince them that they are able to walk on their own legs. Quarrels are very often a way to build a relationship no longer as a child to an adult, but between two grown up people, simply because the kids are full of new opinions, very clear ideas to express. It is also probable that the lack of desire for dialogue is caused by the inability of adults to establish a healthy dialogue with their children. From childhood they are used to spontaneously tell what happens to them, and it is very important that parents show interest. Another type of parents are those who subject their children to an interrogation, and it will be annoying for the child to answer only in monosyllables, little by little their answers will become more and more concise, until they become “mind your own business”.
The typical interrogation is used between friends, and at this point it can be said that parents are not friends of children, much less must they be, because young people feel the need to create real relationships outside the home, which are completely different from those that he has with whom he raised him. Kids like to understand that their parents care about them, but they are pleased to see them confident in them and convinced that they can get by, often successfully.
Parents must ensure that their children can give them information spontaneously, that they tell them what happens to them day by day, also because it is precisely by observing what it is essential for them to report that you will be able to understand what their priorities are.
For a boy, even if he is not shy, it is very difficult to talk and confide in a parent, while it is much easier to do it with a peer of his age. This, perhaps, is because it is believed that a parent does not understand the needs of the child as he lived decades ago, when the world was completely different from what it is today, but in reality even if this reasoning is true, one does not have the no idea what a mistake one is making because no one better than a parent can understand a problem that afflicts their child. However, there are also young people who confide in each other by telling them everything they do, what they feel, what they want, and that their parents show no interest, and therefore lead the young person to disobey adults, who know nothing about their children .
Playing the role of parent and child is not easy, but helping each other becomes much easier. Everything revolves around the environment in which you live, and with parents with their “head on their shoulders”, almost certainly, when they grow up they will be an excellent parent of which their children can feel proud without any doubt.