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Who are they
Highly Sensitive People possess a great capacity for empathy and easily perceive the feelings of others, are attentive to non-verbal communication and are deeply influenced by the emotional climate of the environment in which they find themselves.
Since childhood, the highly sensitive are very intuitive, generous and show a tendency to perfectionism present even in adulthood, so they often have high expectations about what they do.
The instinct of protection for the weakest, the anger towards injustices together with the deep connection with the emotions, their own and others, make the Highly Sensitive a fine observer of the world, able to immediately intuit situations of discomfort and give other what he needs.
“HSPs generally live life so differently than most of the people around them that they often carry a sense of diversity, strangeness and misunderstanding that can cause a lot of suffering and a sense of marginalization,” explains a psychologist.
The great sensitivity in many cases is also … of the skin! Through psychosomatic illnesses, the epidermis, which marks the thin border between us and others, becomes the channel in which stress, a sense of danger and anxiety are manifested.
Typical traits of HSPs:
1) They pay attention to details and process information more deeply. They are solitary thinkers brought to critical reflection
2) More easily subject to overstimulation and overload, they struggle to manage conflicts
3) They show an immediate empathic connection with close people, the animal world and nature
4) They immediately feel the emotional environment, perceiving unresolved tensions and hidden conflicts
5) They are often perfectionists and have high expectations, which is why they can easily appear impatient, restless, dissatisfied
6) Like fish that live in a pH that is too acidic, HSPs flee from too much noise to find peace in nature and frequently show great pleasure in being in or near water
7) Changes are often a source of stress: in cases like these, there is a strong need for moments to devote to observation and reflection
8) They are interested in the less material and therefore more profound and spiritual aspects of existence. Tendency to introspection and reflection.
9) They have a great emotional reactivity to events, and even on a physical level they show more intense reactions than the average
What is hypersensitivity?
Studied by Dr. Elaine Aron’s group in California since the 1980s, hypersensitivity is defined as a genetic and hereditary, characteristic and unchangeable trait that has been found in 20% of the population (also in many other animal species) and which, intersecting with the rest of the individual character, with personal history and with the cultural environment, contributes to influence the experience of the world and of social relations. The greater depth of processing of stimuli, especially of a social nature, makes highly sensitive people particularly permeable in an emotional sense with respect to the situations that surround them.
Living as highly sensitive people
«Living as a highly sensitive person means grasping 1000 nuances in every detail; it means feeling overwhelmed by the stimulation of the external world but also from the internal one, having to learn to manage the overload. It means having a particular propensity for deep observation; it means being easily moved or feeling easily tired and irritable when overburdened; it means feeling everything and more intensely, both positive and negative things, and at the same time making an incredible effort to make it understood by others who do not have this characteristic.
It also means to automatically tend to anticipate the needs of those around us and take care of people and situations until it is very difficult to stay centered on their needs. It generally also means feeling different, often out of place, often being told that you are “too much”: too sensitive, too sensitive, too deep, too reflective, too tired, too slow or too fast, too emotional.
Fortunately, sometimes it also means being told that we are excellent confidants, that people feel free to talk about themselves, that we tend by nature to want to live in harmony and be attentive to others, that we are particularly conscientious and attentive, that we bring out the best in deep situations, that we have artistic talents and great creativity ». The psychologists explain.
How to handle the conflict
«A frequent theme is the difficulty of managing the conflict» continue the experts «We have great difficulty in saying no. We are little in touch with our needs and much more focused on the needs of others. Conflict means wanting different things, here’s the difficulty: how can I express a different opinion recognizing my needs without trampling on the needs of others? This is particularly complicated because the HSP struggles to distinguish their own needs from those of others and remain serenely focused on their own “.
What happens is that we generally build up stress until we reach a definitive breaking point, however, the challenge is to learn to manage differences through a conscious gaze and to start expressing our truths, making others understand clearly what is important to us. we.