“When I’m overwhelmed with worries, I think back to a man who, on his deathbed, said his whole life had been filled with worries, most of it for things that never happened.”Winston Churchill
- STOP WORRIING THE OPINION THAT OTHERS HAVE ABOUT YOU.
Is what others think of you really that important?
When I was younger, I let the opinions of my schoolmates and friends constantly influence my decisions.
With the consequence that sometimes the opinions of others led me away from my values, from the ideas I believed in and from the goals I had set myself.
Only later did I begin to understand that this way of thinking and acting would prevent me from living an existence that was in line with my personality and my values.
Today I always listen to what others think of me with the utmost openness and interest.
This helps me to observe my reality from multiple perspectives and to accept the advice and suggestions that I think are most suitable and appropriate for me.
But the decisions and choices that concern me are always and only mine, and the criterion I adopt is always that of adherence to my values, my ideas, my personality and my goals.
It doesn’t matter what others think of you.
It is important how you feel about yourself.
- STOP WORRIING ABOUT APPEARING IN A CERTAIN WAY.
There is no right or wrong way to dress, hair or introduce yourself.
Simply try to be yourself, to express the wonderful uniqueness that you represent.
Introduce yourself to others in the way that makes you feel comfortable, relaxed and in line with your tastes and preferences.
Representing and expressing yourself is much more inspiring and interesting than trying to be someone else’s clone.
You are unique, wonderfully unique.
Trying to look like another person is a mess to your extraordinary beauty.
In a world that goes to great lengths to conform you to others, find the courage to be yourself.
- STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK IS RIGHT FOR YOU.
Unfortunately, just as you are about to take the first step on the virtuous path of your dream realization, the people around you, even those who love you most, will try to walk away from it.
And not because they have bad intentions towards you.
But simply because they try to protect you and keep you away from all forms of risk and potential failure, because they don’t really understand what your dreams and passions really represent for you.
For this reason, the very ones who love you most will try to protect you from the possibility of making mistakes and failing, without realizing that at the same time they are taking you away from the possibility of turning your dreams into reality.
As Steve Jobs said: “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t get caught up in the dogma of having to live according to other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other people’s opinions silence your inner voice, heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you really want to become. Everything else is secondary. “
- STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE LIMITS OTHERS WANT TO AMOUNT.
No matter how much progress you are able to make, there will always be someone who will keep telling you that what you are trying to do is impossible.
Or they will try to convince you that your idea is absurd or that your dream is impossible.
When you meet these kinds of people, just ignore them, don’t even try to reason with them, it would be useless.
Let them go, they would only drain your time and energy.
Try what you want to try.
Go where you want to go.
Follow your instincts and your intuition.
Don’t let others put a cage around you.
When someone tries to discredit you and repeats to you that you are unable to do something, remember that these people speak from within their limited horizons.
Ignore it and go straight on your way.
- STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS HAVE.
When you find yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop!
Try to understand that you are different, that you have strengths and weaknesses that others do not have.
Take a moment to reflect on all the wonderful abilities you possess and be grateful for all the beautiful things in your life.
One of the problems common to many of us is that we believe we will be happy when we reach a certain status or milestone in our life – a job, a home, a marriage, and so on.
Unfortunately, it takes some time before you can approach these goals, and by the time you have achieved them you will have already worked out new goals.
So try not to make your happiness depend on reaching a goal.
Instead, try to appreciate who you are and what you have right now, right now.
Instead, try to compare yourself to those who have less and those who struggle hard to survive.
Stop complaining, stop envying and appreciate what you have.
- STOP WORRIING THAT YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT.
Each of us has our own pace, our own beliefs, our own perspective.
On closer inspection, there are very few things in the world that are absolutely “right” or “wrong”.
What is right for you can be wrong for me, and vice versa.
People need to live their lives in their own way – in the way that is right for them.
When it comes to life choices and personal opinions, there is very little to discuss, there is no better or worse point of view than the other.
When you find yourself discussing a topic with a friend or family member, always try to be ready to step back and not make it a more important issue than it really is.
When you find yourself embroiled in an argument, you feel you absolutely want to be right and try to convince the other part of your reasons, try to stop for a moment.
Relax and let your mind and body calm down.
Being right basically is useless, indeed it can perhaps only make you a little more unpleasant.
Besides, to be right you don’t need to win any arguments.
Open your mind to new ideas, new opinions and new perspectives.
Don’t just analyze what others do and say, but always try to ask yourself what are the reasons that move them.
- STOP WORRIING ABOUT MAKING MISTAKES.
Every mistake is the source of important lessons, every mistake is a lesson.
The only true and real mistake you can ever make in your life is to do nothing because you are terrified of the fear of making mistakes.
Then do it for yourself: act, don’t hesitate, don’t doubt yourself.
It is normal not to be 100 percent sure of what you are doing, after all who is?
But he is 100 percent sure that if you stay put and passive, if you don’t live your life for fear of making a mistake, then you can be sure that you will only get disappointed.
It doesn’t matter what results you will get, because having tried it will already be the most significant reward for all your efforts.
You may be successful or you may fail, in which case you will gain an important lesson.
You will still be the winner and will never be overwhelmed by the thought of regret not having tried.
Take action, fail, fall, stand up and try again.
You have nothing to lose, everything to gain.
- STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT YOU CANNOT CONTROL.
Many situations, many events that happen in your life are inevitably beyond your control.
Accept it as an integral part of your existence.
Wasting your talent, skills and energy on things and facts beyond your control is the best recipe for frustration, anger and resignation.
The smartest move you can take when faced with the things you can’t control is to manage your attitude.
There is no point in complaining or getting lost in victimhood, accept reality and focus on the next action to take.